I (Nina) was faced with a sudden decision to fly crosscountry
for a family emergency. I felt pinched because (a) I “knew” others expected me to go, (b) last minute airfare was exorbitant, (c) I’d taken time off work the previous week
and now, without notice, I was asking for another week off,
(d) my day job is part-time, so when I don’t work, I don’t get paid, which magnified the financial pinch. I felt resentment at being forced into action that felt out of my control. I wanted to dig in my heels and stay, and that felt icky.
My coach asked for my truth. If none of the other factors were present, what would I want to do? My bolt of insight was that if I felt totally free to choose, I would go in a heartbeat.
What made it feel icky was the story I told myself that I was not at choice. When I honored my truth, my decision to travel did not change—how I felt about it changed.
This week, notice when you feel nagged by self-doubt. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and ask, “What feels true for me?” Trust your gut. Resolve to feel good no matter what!