But what about the “negative” influences? How were you affected by your encounter with the bully, the loss of a loved one, the falling stock market, or bad news from the doctor?
At first blush you may be inclined to resent those people and events for the pain you felt. But what if those “negative” influences offer a platform to strengthen, adapt, and perform in ways you might not otherwise have achieved?
For years I envied friends and family who knew the security, comfort and consistency of growing up together in the same community, developing deep and rich roots and relationships. As an Air Force brat, I was uprooted every two to four years to a new city or state. I envied the permanence of long-term roots, familiar faces and predictable routines.
Now when I return to the places I wish I’d never had to leave, they look different to me. The people seem not to have changed much – something I appreciate, but also something I don’t understand. My exposure to a wider piece of the world has shifted my physical and social perspective. Where once I longed for permanence, now I understand that change is a fundamental characteristic of all of nature. Permanence, almost by definition, denies change and stagnates growth. This understanding gives me new appreciation for both “positive” and “negative.”
This week, explore what has felt like negative influence on your life. Shift your perspective and understanding, and resolve to feel good no matter what!